If you have a teenager in your house you have questions running through your mind – Darla Noble
IF YOU’RE BLESSED WITH A TEENAGER WHO IS RESPONSIBLE, RESPECTFUL, HEALTHY AND ALL THOSE GOOD THINGS, YOU’RE PROBABLY ASKING YOURSELF QUESTIONS LIKE THESE:
- How did I get so lucky?
- How long is this going to last?
- Does this mean there really are aliens?
- Can I honestly believe I’ve done this right?
- Can I assume this will last through his/her lifetime?
OR IF YOU ARE STRUGGLING TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR TEENAGER, HAVE A TEENAGER WHO IS DEFIANT, REBELLIOUS AND POSSIBLY EVEN A DANGER TO HIM/HERSELF AND OTHERS, YOU ARE UNDOUBTEDLY ASKING THESE QUESTIONS:
- What did I do wrong?
- Is this really my fault?
- Why me?
- He/she hasn’t always been like this…what happened to change them?
- I need help – where do I go and what do I do?
THE ANSWERS FOR THOSE WITH INQUIRING MINDS
THERE ARE MULTIPLE SOURCES OF HELP AND ENCOURAGEMENT AVAILABLE FOR PARENTS OF CHILDREN OF ALL AGES OF THE MOST VALUABLE BEING BOOKS ON PARENTING.
From the time Dr. Spock’s book hit the shelves in 1946, books on parenting have become one of the most sought-after genres of readers everywhere. The subject matter has even been the premise of movies for generations-including the enjoyable and star-studded “What to Expect When Expecting” that made movie – goers laugh till they cried and recall their own experiences with fond memories.
What’s that I hear? Groaning? A book, you say? Yes, books. Books on parenting can be life-savers for parents looking for help in:
- Developing better and stronger relationships with their children
- Dealing with their child’s physical limitations
- Coping with the stress and extra measure of everything it takes to parent a child with limitations
- Building on a foundation that is solid so it will not crumble
- Being encouraged by parents just like yourself
- Growing your parenting skills into those of an intentional parent
- Knowing what it is your teens are looking for, needing, desiring and searching for
Think about it…what other way would you possibly have to benefit from the wisdom of healthcare professionals, those who have dedicated their lives to understanding teenagers and other parents navigating these unchartered waters? It’s probably safe to say you don’t have their numbers in your phone or that you’re not Facebook friends.
Reading is easier than ever before / E-Readers are one of the best things to hit the world of technology since the microwave. No, seriously. E-books are less expensive, so much more portable and take up lots less space than hard copies. In other words, there is no excuse for not taking the time to read up on your parenting skills; get a few ideas, do a little commiserating and even learn a few things about being a teen that you’ve either forgotten or in reality didn’t exist when you were standing in your teen’s shoes.
What’s out there for me / Admittedly it can be a bit overwhelming when you go to sites like Amazon or Barnes and Noble and see the pages and pages of titles to select from. And maybe you don’t have a lot of time to read the synopsis to find what you are looking for. That’s where we can help. Here is a list of recommended reading for parents of teens and a brief description of the book, allowing you to see whether or not it may be of help for your particular situation. Other valuable sources for knowing what to read include recommendations from other parents, the high school guidance counselor, your minister and teen mentors such as those in sports and after-school programs.
Getting to Calm / by Dr. Laura Kastner and Jennifer Wyatt
This book takes a physiological look at what makes your teen function and the physical aspects of creating an environment that is conducive to positive behavior.
I’d Listen to My Parents If They’d Just Shut Up: What to Say and Not Say When Parenting Teens by Anthony Wolf
Book that combines humor with wisdom in knowing when and when not to talk to your teens and what to say so they’ll listen. Today’s teens live in a world of technology which they have literally attached themselves to 24/7. Parents need to know what it takes to get through to teens on their level. Mr. Wolf is also the author of Get Out of My Life and Cheryl to the Mall? Mr. Wolf’s books are among the most popular and widely-acclaimed parenting books in the nation.
The Five Love Languages of a Teenager by Gary Chapman
Teens are no different from anyone else – they want to be loved. By drawing from Gary’s advice on how to show your teen love and affection in a way they understand and accept, you could save your teen from disastrous and life-altering circumstances. Teens are no different from Waylon Jennings – they’ll look for love, even if it is in all the wrong places.
The Power of a Praying Parent by Stormie Omartian
One of the most effective and encouraging books ever written on the subject of parenting. Stormie leaves no subject untouched when it comes to being an intentional parent – one who invests heart, soul and mind into loving and raising a child to be the person they created to be. Parents of teens find this book especially helpful.
How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlis
This is a delightful, easy-reading book packed full of practical and realistic ideas on how talking less brings more results and strengthens your relationship with your teens. From the opening chapter, you’ll be hooked!
Seventeen Magazine That’s right. What better way to know why your teenage daughter feels so strongly about looking this way or that and why she just has to have that pair of jeans? The magazine is filled with advice for teens on boys, dating, sex, school and a plethora of other topics. Shouldn’t you be aware of how your daughter is being encouraged to handle herself and how she’s being influenced regarding the choices she makes?
OTHER GREAT SOURCES INCLUDE BOOKS BY DR. JAMES DOBSON, SUSIE DAVIS, CARLETON KENDRICK AND KIMBERLY ABRAHAM