Does it seem like the closer your child got to adolescence, the harder it became to communicate with them? It seems that once kids reach the age of 14 and older, they build some form of agreement to stop speaking with their parents. A lot of parents make the assumption that this is all completely normal and that when communication is needed, it will happen. This is far from the truth, and as a parent, it is extremely important that you keep the lines of communication open with your teen. Whether they like it or not, they will need your guidance quite a bit as they finish out their school years.
Building A Lasting Relationship
Once your child has become a teenager, it is important that you begin building more of an open relationship with them. If you’re too focused on structure and discipline, you could miss out on developing a bond with your teen. They are developing into adults and while you should not treat them as your best friends, you should find ways to let them know that you respect them as they are growing older and that you are there for them.
Respect Their Individuality
Another problem that parents have is forcing right or wrong on their teens in conversation. Your teen is entitled to their own opinion and you should not be so quick to knock it down. If your teen feels like they cannot express themselves in front of you without some form of discipline, they will close off and refrain from talking to you.
Create One on One Time
Between your schedule and your teen’s schedule, it is important that you schedule some time just to the two of you. Sometimes, teens can shut down on their parents because they feel like the parents have “bigger” issues on their plate. Taking even an hour with just you and your teen lets them know that you will always be there for them and that nothing is more important than them. One on one time also allows you to experience better communication without other family members around.
Share Your World
Last but not least, a great way to get your teen to open up to you is to be open with them as well. Of course, you would not share every detail of your life with your teen, but if you have a story that you feel they can relate to or benefit from, you should share it. This will let them know that you trust them as well.
Keeping communication open will be important as your teen gets older. To keep them out of trouble and safe from harm, communicating daily is best. Try these tips and see if you don’t experience a change in the way you interact with your teen.