Juvenile SystemReply to this Comment
My 13-yr-old son has been arrested for burglary. Shock to the parental system for sure! The PO I am dealing with is not informative and seems hostile. This is my first time dealing with this type of situation and I need help with the system. I am not looking to "get him out of it"...I want him to have consequences for his actions and to pay restitution for his crimes. What is my best way to work within this system that I don't understand? I haven't even had a traffic ticket...sigh...
I don't know what to expect or how to help my child get thru it without those expectations. I have him in counseling and an additional troubled youth program for starters...may have to go more drastic than that. He is a first offender.
The system I am entering into doesn't seem to be so "helpful" or encouraging. I have to make this work so my kid will have a fulfilling life but hard to do if it seems he is judged so harshly before we even get to court.
Where do you learn more and how to work within the parameters of the system?
courtReply to this Comment
i am a teen to and am going threw almost the same thing 1st offence breaking and entering think that life is on a short fuse and you only have a few chances to put it out but i am still incourt on probation and it is hard i dont think that i will be lucky enough to get out of it
Bleeding Hearts need to keep it to them selvesReply to this Comment
I myself have raised 3 teens and have 1 pre teen to go.. it always amazes me .. how many ppl who do not have KIDS!! are entitled to or have any validation giving to their OPINIONS!!.. the laws are not close to being tough enough.. the programs that did work.. have been banned and outlawed as cruel and unusual punishment... why? well .. its plain as the eyelashes on our faces.. the ones as i said who have no kids who think it is all cruel i think its all a load of BULLSHIT!!! and i refuse to have one of my kids if i can help it end up another statistic!! in a day and age where the opportunities these kids have are Limitless.. and yet the Behavior exhibited is worse then ever.. when i was that age the opportunities were not so readily available and yet most of us turned out ok... so if you ask me the LAWS need to TOUGHEN up period!!!!!!
corf2301 wrote:
"My 13-yr-old son has been arrested for burglary. Shock to the parental system for sure! The PO I am dealing with is not informative and seems hostile. This is my first time dealing with this type of situation and I need help with the system. I am not looking to "get him out of it"...I want him to have consequences for his actions and to pay restitution for his crimes. What is my best way to work within this system that I don't understand? I haven't even had a traffic ticket...sigh...
I don't know what to expect or how to help my child get thru it without those expectations. I have him in counseling and an additional troubled youth program for starters...may have to go more drastic than that. He is a first offender.
The system I am entering into doesn't seem to be so "helpful" or encouraging. I have to make this work so my kid will have a fulfilling life but hard to do if it seems he is judged so harshly before we even get to court.
Where do you learn more and how to work within the parameters of the system?"
Hey.. its tough but honestly there is alot of support out there... for you.. and the hardest thing you will do is Called TOUGH LOVE!!! it probably seems as though he went from the biggest sweety to someone whom you dont even know over night.. gawd i sooooooooo can sympathize.. please find strength.. to put your foot down.. and hold him accountable for his actions.. FInd support for you.. its out there best of luck
my experiences with the systemReply to this Comment
I am posting this to possably spare some other mother from being victimized by state justice systems..
My son 13 now, was a hyper child. I tried to resist putting him on meds by using the special diet for ADHD. A lot of work but after a year no results. As he grew his behaviors got worse. He was an only child and needed me too wear 2 hats. I call Mary Poppins and GI Jane. I did not coddle him nor spoil him. His behaviors still worsend. I volunteered at his school until they expelled him in the 4th grade. I put him in a special ed school. All the while he was seeing a therapist once every week. I put us thru all the youth at risk programs that i could find. We graduated them all with high honors. His behavior got worse yet. Tough love did it. Held him accountable, did it. At 13 he began huffing arisols. The therapists said our only other option was to file incouragable charges on him. So i did it, reluctantly. @ other mother from my support group had horror stories of this, but i figured they were probably just a couple of those bad parents that didnt realize it.
The probation department looked at everything i had already done for him and said that they had nothing else to offer, so they were turning it over to state for services on that level. This was the worst thing i could have done. They came out like vultures on me! I have a documented record of doing all the right things, but the CPS and state workers always assume that anything wrong with a child is somehow the parents fault. They took my child and put him in a residential treatment center (which was what i wanted) but now they have set their sites on me. Even lying and falsifying reports to try to turn me into a monster. I fixed em by having an officer present any time i speak with a state worker but they are still trying to make things up, even with police officers notes saying otherwise.
Moms.. even if you have to remortgage your house to afford treatment for your child, do not use the probate court to assist you in finding help for your child. At least in Michigan!
corf2301 wrote:
"My 13-yr-old son has been arrested for burglary. Shock to the parental system for sure! The PO I am dealing with is not informative and seems hostile. This is my first time dealing with this type of situation and I need help with the system. I am not looking to "get him out of it"...I want him to have consequences for his actions and to pay restitution for his crimes. What is my best way to work within this system that I don't understand? I haven't even had a traffic ticket...sigh...
I don't know what to expect or how to help my child get thru it without those expectations. I have him in counseling and an additional troubled youth program for starters...may have to go more drastic than that. He is a first offender.
The system I am entering into doesn't seem to be so "helpful" or encouraging. I have to make this work so my kid will have a fulfilling life but hard to do if it seems he is judged so harshly before we even get to court.
Where do you learn more and how to work within the parameters of the system?"
I am just starting a youth oriented non profit organzation, it is my calling. Since your case is over a year old, I do not know where you stand at this point. But if I can help you can contact me at (214)930-3486 or email me at starlight1cam@yahoo.com, my name is Christine.
Reader Comments 
By: corf2301 Posted: Jun 02 2008