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my daugther is starting to lie and today it has taken it's toll.
she is w/ her father this week (50/50 custody) and we have no communication which takes it's toll on both her and my son.
her 13th birthday is on Thursday and I have planned a small suprise party for her w/ friends and family. now, I'm thinking of cancelling it due to her latest lie that I just caught. Would this be more harmful to her state or should I follow my rules to consequences?
antonette wrote:
"my daugther is starting to lie and today it has taken it's toll.
she is w/ her father this week (50/50 custody) and we have no communication which takes it's toll on both her and my son.
her 13th birthday is on Thursday and I have planned a small suprise party for her w/ friends and family. now, I'm thinking of cancelling it due to her latest lie that I just caught. Would this be more harmful to her state or should I follow my rules to consequences?
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I think that major factor that you have to look at is how bad the lie was? When teens get things taken away from them that are most likely to fight back and get into even more trouble than the first time. Because she is only 13 i honestly think that you should not cancel it yes becoming a teen is something that she will have to learn eventually but...i really cant say anything else because i dont know the extent of the lie..i hope that helps
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my son told me and his father that he was going to go and hang out with friends and he got a girl pragnet and i dont know what i am going to do to him. ground him or just yell at him
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My daughter stole $60.00 from her grandfathers dresser. When she was confronted about it she said that I gave her the $. She was with her dad (we are divorced) at the time. She spent the money buying Christmas presents for me and her stepdad. She was confroted abou the lye and she finally confessed and apologized to her grandfather. Later, come to find out, she asked her Grandmother to take her to the mall and she tried to by an "m" game. She told her grandmother that I wanted her to buy the game. Her grandmother did not let her buy the game and that is when she went Christmas shopping for myself and her stepdad. She still has not confessed this lye. I don't know what to do and how to discipline her.
lakeh wrote:
"my son told me and his father that he was going to go and hang out with friends and he got a girl pragnet and i dont know what i am going to do to him. ground him or just yell at him"
There is no need to yell at your son or punish him now he has already punished himself. He needs to be held responsible for his actions by beginning to earn money to provide for his child. He can no longer hang out with his friends the way he used to because he now has a huge responsibility. He thought he was a man by fathering a child now he has to change his life to reflect his choices. Don't constantly throw it up in his face but begin helping him to transition into parenthood. Even if the mother is not going to keep the baby he needs to learn a valuable lesson from this. See that he takes parenting classes and classes that teach sexual responsibility and abstinence.
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My daughter lied about eating chocolate bars and it was her friend who kind of ratted her out so I told her that she was souposed to make her own punishment and then I would ok it but I don't know what a good punishment is can you tell me?
swimmermom wrote:
"My daughter lied about eating chocolate bars and it was her friend who kind of ratted her out so I told her that she was souposed to make her own punishment and then I would ok it but I don't know what a good punishment is can you tell me?"
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My 13 yr old son defied me. He had football after school and danced instead after I told him he had to go to football. I understand He loves dance over football but, but it was the fact that he went behind my back. He has a Homecoming dance on Sat he has a date should I ground him from it? I grounded him from going to the homecoming football game friday night.
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My son is 17 and has been lying. It has been going on since he was little. I have tried everything. Asking what is going on, positive reinforcement, taking everything out of his room and making him earn it back, telling him I love him but there is no sense talking to him if all he is going to do is lie and not speaking to him, grounding him, yelling, spending more time with him. He lies even when there is no reason to lie!
I am at a loss on how to help.
suggestions?
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I don't know what else to do...
my 17 year old step son lies and lies. He tells small lies and big lies. The hard part is he sticks to his lies and won't give in until I show him proof of some sort. I'm starting to get really worried. Nothing works. Tough love, punishment, restriction..Nothing. We're going to counseling next week...
karlak1 wrote:
"My son is 17 and has been lying. It has been going on since he was little. I have tried everything. Asking what is going on, positive reinforcement, taking everything out of his room and making him earn it back, telling him I love him but there is no sense talking to him if all he is going to do is lie and not speaking to him, grounding him, yelling, spending more time with him. He lies even when there is no reason to lie!
I am at a loss on how to help.
suggestions?
"
If you find something the helps please let me know!
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my daughter just turned 16years old on feb 11/2010, just today I caught her in a lie, I was up in her room and what a mess, and I found 200ml 40% rum. in abag under her bed, and an empty pop can with smokes in it, when she came home from school I asked her not to go up to her room yet for we needed to talk first, the first thing she said was what did I do wrong now? I asked what have her friend and her been doing in your room? she said that her friend was smoking in her room and she didn't want to be tell on her, I thanked her for telling the truth about that, and then I asked her what else were they doing? I told her to come clean and she will not get in trouble, we sat for an hour and she was getting moody so I went and got the 1/2 pint and asked her where that came from? she said she didn't know how it got into her room, so I gave her another chance to come clean and she didn't, so I called her friend and asked her if she brought it over to my home, her friend told me that,this guy who is 21years old gave it to my daughter and her on her birthday Nov 21, and they were to drink it, but they didn't,so stupid me her friend asked if she talk to mmy daughter, I told her ok and hand her the phone then I heard my daughter say I already lied to my parents and I am going to be in alot of trouble for lying, when my daughter hang up the phone, she said the same thing her friend said, and my husband ,mydaughter's step-father said you are grounded from the cell phone, computer and tv for a month, and I said she will not play volleyball(she has been trying out for volleyball for 2 weeks) my daughter said find I'll just go to school and to work and have no life, I don't want to pull her out of volleyball because it's getting her out in agroup with other kids and she does work every weekend, plus goes to school, I'm stuck! I want my kid to be open with me and I want to believe her when she tells me something ..but things don't add up, for example lastyear she was working (at 15yr old) making her own money, and she went be hind my back and got her tongue pireced, and the man that did it never asked her for ID and he did it for $30, this happen on a tuesday and she never told me till friday, I ate supper with her and she was studying for school, i just thought she was coming down with a cold, and I even gave her medicine and put her to bed early...and when I did find out I was shocked, I asked where she got it done and on saturday morning I took her to the shop where she had it done at ,but it was closed until 12 noon, so she thought I wouldn't got back but she got a shock cause at 2pm we wnet back and when we got there I made her sit in the car with her step father and I went in to see the guy, I walked in and I asked him if I could get some information about tongue pieceing , He asked me if i wanted it done I said no thank you, I asked him how old does a child needs to be to get there tongue pieced with out a parents concent, he said 16, and he also added that he always ask for ID, I said thank you and I asked him if he could come out side with me for a mintute, which he did, I asked my daughter to get out of the car and I asked the man if he remember her he said yes I did her tongue on tuesday, I said is that so... I asked him if he asked her for ID he said yes and I looked at my daughter and she spoke up and said no you didn't you put me in the chair pulled my tongue out and did it and asked me for $30 and told me not to eat any milk or any dairly products for 2 weeks. You see it's lie after lie, and each time it's getting worst. PLEASE HELP
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By: antonette Posted: Oct 15 2007