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I feel completely trapped. My 16 yo daughter brought a man into our home just before Christmas. I flipped, did a lot of yelling, and got no where. My excuse for a husband doesn't seem bothered at all by this. I am afraid that this creep is coming back and will endanger my other 11 yo daughter. My 16 yo is walking around like she owns the place and I am the one paying all of the bills as my husband doesn't work. I want to kick both of them out. I can't stand being here. My daughter is in therapy and has the therapist believing that I abuse her. My heart is broken and I am angry, but I never touched her. I have provided anything she has ever needed or wanted, including trips around the world. She is also such a master of lying and manipulation that she makes me out to be irrational and threatening and people believe her. I have seen this same behavior in one of my close cousins and she took an overdose of drugs earlier this year. I am terrified that my daughter has the same chemical imbalances and is going down the same path. I want a divorce. I want to take my 11 yo far away from my lazy excuse for a husband and my manipulative teen. I want to save her from this. I want to kick my 16 yo out and know legally I can't. I am trapped.
JackiSS wrote:
"I feel completely trapped. My 16 yo daughter brought a man into our home just before Christmas. I flipped, did a lot of yelling, and got no where. My excuse for a husband doesn't seem bothered at all by this. I am afraid that this creep is coming back and will endanger my other 11 yo daughter. My 16 yo is walking around like she owns the place and I am the one paying all of the bills as my husband doesn't work. I want to kick both of them out. I can't stand being here. My daughter is in therapy and has the therapist believing that I abuse her. My heart is broken and I am angry, but I never touched her. I have provided anything she has ever needed or wanted, including trips around the world. She is also such a master of lying and manipulation that she makes me out to be irrational and threatening and people believe her. I have seen this same behavior in one of my close cousins and she took an overdose of drugs earlier this year. I am terrified that my daughter has the same chemical imbalances and is going down the same path. I want a divorce. I want to take my 11 yo far away from my lazy excuse for a husband and my manipulative teen. I want to save her from this. I want to kick my 16 yo out and know legally I can't. I am trapped."
I sympathize with you completely. My situation is a bit different, but the outcome is the same - 15 year old daughter is very similar to yours, mentally unstable, feels she is right in every matter, is in "love" with her current boyfriend (who of course has no job, doesn't go to school, and now she thinks she is pregnant - even though I put her on birth control and provided condoms!), well, you get the picture. I have had her in the psychiatric hospital 3 times this year (for cutting and suicidal leanings), counseling, doctors, alternative school...so much has happened these last 6 months! Regardless of all of the help I have been getting her, all she can talk about is becoming emancipated so she can support herself and take care of herself. Of course, she does nothing but want me to take care of all the finances (which I do, my ex has never paid support, is over 30,000 in arrears), and let her live her life. I have a younger daughter who is completely the opposite, and I am so tired of this circus ride my 15 year old is continually putting us through. I am tired of feeling this way, I don't know what to do anymore...I am just so tired!
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By: JackiSS Posted: Jan 15 2011