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i have a 17yr old son who was physically violent towards me tonight. I'm gutted. His father allows him to yell at me but this is beyond a joke. What do I do?
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My mother who is 65 years old and not in good health has an adopted 12 year old girl. This girl has gotten extremely agressive lately and has been hitting my mother. I have told my mother to call the police whenever this happens, but the girl is always returned home. My mother is not equipped to handle this situation. I don't know what to do to help. The girl is on medication to control her moods, but refuses to take it. Mother has had her in therapy, but girl refuses to speak. I am fearful that my mother is really going to be hurt. Can someone please direct me.
carol wrote:
"i have a 17yr old son who was physically violent towards me tonight. I'm gutted. His father allows him to yell at me but this is beyond a joke. What do I do?"
Carol,
You seem to be alone in all this but I think you should pray and ask God to bless your decisions when it comes to your son. He is a 17yr old young man and what he is learning right now is that it is ok to treat others especially women with violence and that no one will do anything about it. If you are feeling guilty about calling the authorities just think that if you don't try to help understand now that this is wrong, he will grow up to be this type of man. How sad would it be later on in life to look back and wonder if you had only done something about this now, maybe he would be a different person. I know it is hard to press charges on your own family. If you try to look at this from the other side, he is your family too and he does not care that he is abusive to you. He doesn't regard the fact that he is your son and that he is hurting you, perhaps because there are no consequences to his actions. I can't tell you that sending him to court or pressing charges is the right thing to do, that is between you and God. I can tell you that I have had to go through something similar and although pressing charges towards my son was what I thought was best, he blames me for it. Deep down inside however, I know it was the best decision I made and I would do it again if he became violent. There is such a thing as Parent abuse and we should not tolerate it. We have sacrificed for them and although it was our choice to have them, we don't deserve to be mistreated for it. Pray about it and ask God to guide your decisions in the best interest of your son. God will do the rest, trust me I have experienced it. Until I had these problems with my son, I had not seen miracles but before I made any major decision concerning my son I said a prayer and asked God to bless my every thought and my every decision. I wish you the best!
basabey wrote:
"Carol,
You seem to be alone in all this but I think you should pray and ask God to bless your decisions when it comes to your son. He is a 17yr old young man and what he is learning right now is that it is ok to treat others especially women with violence and that no one will do anything about it. If you are feeling guilty about calling the authorities just think that if you don't try to help understand now that this is wrong, he will grow up to be this type of man. How sad would it be later on in life to look back and wonder if you had only done something about this now, maybe he would be a different person. I know it is hard to press charges on your own family. If you try to look at this from the other side, he is your family too and he does not care that he is abusive to you. He doesn't regard the fact that he is your son and that he is hurting you, perhaps because there are no consequences to his actions. I can't tell you that sending him to court or pressing charges is the right thing to do, that is between you and God. I can tell you that I have had to go through something similar and although pressing charges towards my son was what I thought was best, he blames me for it. Deep down inside however, I know it was the best decision I made and I would do it again if he became violent. There is such a thing as Parent abuse and we should not tolerate it. We have sacrificed for them and although it was our choice to have them, we don't deserve to be mistreated for it. Pray about it and ask God to guide your decisions in the best interest of your son. God will do the rest, trust me I have experienced it. Until I had these problems with my son, I had not seen miracles but before I made any major decision concerning my son I said a prayer and asked God to bless my every thought and my every decision. I wish you the best!"
Yeah, sure, let god take care of it
I think you should show him who's boss. Sure, you tried to talk to him, it doesn't work. Take some action here.
carol wrote:
"i have a 17yr old son who was physically violent towards me tonight. I'm gutted. His father allows him to yell at me but this is beyond a joke. What do I do?"
hi carol,
if your son is not realizing your importance in his life, then only one thing left make him realise, act to be hyper. if he ever tries to be voilent then you should give the example of some good kids who obey their parents.if still he doesn't understand then you gave to be violent against him.as a mother after you punish him you would automatically cry in from of him. this situation will make your son realize. tears make people change their behavior.
Thank you.
Dilip
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carol wrote:
"i have a 17yr old son who was physically violent towards me tonight. I'm gutted. His father allows him to yell at me but this is beyond a joke. What do I do?"
Hi Carol,
I really don't have an exact answer for you, but I know someone who can help. My son has behavior problems, too. He used to get physical, but not anymore. I tried all sorts of things and even counseling, but nothing worked until a family friend told me about this guy, Daniel. He has a book, but also has a GREAT email newsletter and will answer questions and even talk with you on the phone, if you want.
He definitely helped me and my son, so I'm sure he can help ANYONE, if he can help us! His page is www.honestparenting.com
So, you can try him, or call the police!
Good Luck,
Kim
Natalie wrote:
"My mother who is 65 years old and not in good health has an adopted 12 year old girl. This girl has gotten extremely agressive lately and has been hitting my mother. I have told my mother to call the police whenever this happens, but the girl is always returned home. My mother is not equipped to handle this situation. I don't know what to do to help. The girl is on medication to control her moods, but refuses to take it. Mother has had her in therapy, but girl refuses to speak. I am fearful that my mother is really going to be hurt. Can someone please direct me."
Hi Natalie,
WOW! Your mother sounds like a good person for adopting this girl, but it seems like a serious situation. I don't have a perfect answer for you, but I know someone who can help you and your mother. My son has behavior problems, too. He used to get physically hurtful, but not anymore. I tried all sorts of things and even counseling, but nothing worked until a family friend told me about this guy, Daniel. He has a book, and also a GREAT email newsletter. He'll answer questions and even talk with you on the phone.
He's definitely helped me and my son, and I'm sure he can help ANYONE, if he can help us! His page is www.honestparenting.com
So, you can try him, or call the police, yourself!
Good Luck,
Kim
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By: carol Posted: May 08 2007