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My 18 year old son

He is now 18 and he can do what he wants as he tells me.  His behaviour is more non caring than delinquent.  He needs to get his grade 12, missing two credits.  He is a very smart student but has lost interest in school. He is failing the two subjects he requires to graduate,by simply not doing his assignments.  This is the second try. We have always wanted him to go on to University. There are a number of things that he has done that is very out of character.  I am thankful he is seeing a Psychologist to talk to.and I hope that she can help him.  It is so hard to watch someone that you love make such bad decisions .  He is 18 and I can't make him do what he should do.  I try.  It is so very disappointing and troubling.  I hope he finds his way.


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2008-01-06 15 year old daughter 0
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2007-11-09 Help with a 13yr. old boy 0
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my 13 yr old              Reply to this Comment

does anyone know of any camps there are scholerships too, my daughter is only 13 has already had sex experemented with vicodin, been suspended from school...she was talking to a 19yr old on myspace..and she steals from me and who knows who else..any advice??

               By:  roseym        Posted: Sep 26 2007

13year old teen having sex              Reply to this Comment

IT IS NOT EASY BEING A PARENT,WE MAKE MANY MISTAKES,BUT WE SERVE A GOD OF A SECOND CHANCE.PRAY ,FAST,AND TRUST GOD IS THE ONLY ADVICE I CAN GIVE YOU.ALSO YOU LIVE UPRIGHT BEFORE YOUR CHILD.HUMBLE YOURSELF AND TELL HER YOU ARE SORRY FOR WHATEVER YOU MAY HAVE DONE TO OFFEND HER IN THE PAST.MINISTER LIFE BACK INTO HER AND LET HER KNOW HOW SPECIAL SHE IS.THE REASON WHY SHE IS SO SPECIAL IS BECAUSE GOD ONLY MADE ONE OF HER! AND HE LOVES HER.I CAN TELL YOU THIS ,BECAUSE I HAD TO DO IT.GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS.

               By:  THOWELL        Posted: Oct 02 2007

15 yrs old and knows it all              Reply to this Comment

I have a 15 yr old daughter that thinks she knows it all. I never can do anything right according to her. In her words I am the mom from hell. She is always right and I am always wrong. She does what she wants when she wants and cares less if I say it is ok or not. She screams at me she hits me and I feel like I have let her down somehow. Help I am lost I have no idea what to do to be able to get threw to her how can I make her understand that some of the things she does like steal from me, stay out and me not knowing where she is is not ok. She dont do nothing around the house she eats sleeps and makes a mess.

               By:  desperatemom        Posted: Oct 22 2007

15 yr old daughter              Reply to this Comment
desperatemom wrote:
"I have a 15 yr old daughter that thinks she knows it all. I never can do anything right according to her. In her words I am the mom from hell. She is always right and I am always wrong. She does what she wants when she wants and cares less if I say it is ok or not. She screams at me she hits me and I feel like I have let her down somehow. Help I am lost I have no idea what to do to be able to get threw to her how can I make her understand that some of the things she does like steal from me, stay out and me not knowing where she is is not ok. She dont do nothing around the house she eats sleeps and makes a mess."

I think we have the same daughter! I don't have an answer for you, all I can say is you aren't alone. I struggle with it everyday, all I do is that in the middle of everything I stop and say, hey, just so you know, I love you, and it doesn't matter how angry you get. It doesn't fix anything but at least she can't turn around say you never loved her which to me is the most important. There are too many parents out there that DON'T love their kids enough to TRY

               By:  Shay        Posted: Nov 06 2007

15 year old daughter              Reply to this Comment
Shay wrote:
"I think we have the same daughter! I don't have an answer for you, all I can say is you aren't alone. I struggle with it everyday, all I do is that in the middle of everything I stop and say, hey, just so you know, I love you, and it doesn't matter how angry you get. It doesn't fix anything but at least she can't turn around say you never loved her which to me is the most important. There are too many parents out there that DON'T love their kids enough to TRY"

My 15 year old thinks its okay to yell and cuss at me when things don't go her way. No matter how hard I try to do the right thing, I always do something wrong. But when she wants something, everything is perfect!

               By:  crossmom        Posted: Nov 18 2007

15 year old daughter              Reply to this Comment
desperatemom wrote:
"I have a 15 yr old daughter that thinks she knows it all. I never can do anything right according to her. In her words I am the mom from hell. She is always right and I am always wrong. She does what she wants when she wants and cares less if I say it is ok or not. She screams at me she hits me and I feel like I have let her down somehow. Help I am lost I have no idea what to do to be able to get threw to her how can I make her understand that some of the things she does like steal from me, stay out and me not knowing where she is is not ok. She dont do nothing around the house she eats sleeps and makes a mess."

Sounds like we have the same problems. Let me know how it goes.

               By:  crossmom        Posted: Nov 18 2007

15 year old daughter              Reply to this Comment

Why do we all have the same issues? I bet none of us were the same at that age- perhaps difficult in our own way.The problem is that we are all so aware of all the things that can go seriously wrong- with drugs,sex etc- that perhaps we didnt do,or have such easy opportunityto do when we were that age? I wish there was an answer- I'm focusing on the time my daughter is 16- perhas when she realises I do not have to tolerate her poor behaviour at home she will miraculously improve- that or I'm afraid she may be moving out - with a helpful shove!! (to sink or swim!!)

               By:  laughing        Posted: Jan 06 2008

13 year old granddaughter              Reply to this Comment
THOWELL wrote:
"IT IS NOT EASY BEING A PARENT,WE MAKE MANY MISTAKES,BUT WE SERVE A GOD OF A SECOND CHANCE.PRAY ,FAST,AND TRUST GOD IS THE ONLY ADVICE I CAN GIVE YOU.ALSO YOU LIVE UPRIGHT BEFORE YOUR CHILD.HUMBLE YOURSELF AND TELL HER YOU ARE SORRY FOR WHATEVER YOU MAY HAVE DONE TO OFFEND HER IN THE PAST.MINISTER LIFE BACK INTO HER AND LET HER KNOW HOW SPECIAL SHE IS.THE REASON WHY SHE IS SO SPECIAL IS BECAUSE GOD ONLY MADE ONE OF HER! AND HE LOVES HER.I CAN TELL YOU THIS ,BECAUSE I HAD TO DO IT.GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS. "

Why do our children, who have had a good life become completely different when they reach their teens. My grand-daughter is being just horrendous at the moment and no matter what we do it is not good enough for her. I feel for any parent who is going through teenage years, when do they end?

               By:  nanna cass        Posted: Jan 09 2008

I as well have a 18 yr.              Reply to this Comment

he has 5 or 6 credits to pass ...he has a "i don't care" attitude that has frankly almost ruined my 12 year marriage.HE HAS GONE TO THE POINT TO SHOVE MY HUSBAND ON A ACCOUNT OF "WAS DISRESPECTED(NOT ALLOWED IN MY ROOM TO WAKE ME )"...i HAVE TAKEN HIM TO SEE A NEUROLOGIST WHO IN TURN HAS PUT HIM ON MEDS...(ADHD)...HE WANTS FRIENDS TO COME INTO MY HOME THAT HAVE SMOKED( MARY JANE) IN HIS ROOM ....ALSO DISRUPTING OUR HOME EVERY MORNING BECAUSE HE DOES NOT HAVE A DESIRE TO FINISH SCHOOL...MY PHONE RINGS OFF THE HOOK DUE TO HIMNOT ATTENDING....I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR SOME PROFESSIONAL ADVISE ON HOW 2 DEAL WITH HIS LACK OF DRIVE...NOT 2 MENTION STOLE MY CAR LAST MONTH ONLY 2 HAVE IT IMPOUNDED AND BOOKED ON A D.U.I...............?

               By:  Lily Garcia        Posted: Jan 08 2009

17 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER              Reply to this Comment

She....has done absolutely zero when it comes to her job that I sign her time cards... she's paid appox.5-6 hundred dollars every month plus 7 hundred dollars 4 child support ....that i receive monthly...this cute little princess has went from kind considerate no cuss words to a "idon't care ,whatever "attitude...yes i did take her 2 a brain doc. only 2 find ouut she's ADHD.... given a patch that is not used every day she has full blown swings one minute she's caring waiting 2 be rewarded for doing her job the next she's puting a knife in my throat ....the entire time my 21 yr.boy has his girlfriend over in his room visiting ...can't be sure if she is hearing this out burst or not but I can no longer take this sort of torture and dis- in my home...what can i do.....?

               By:  Lily Garcia        Posted: Jan 08 2009

My 18 yr old Son!              Reply to this Comment
Lily Garcia wrote:
"he has 5 or 6 credits to pass ...he has a "i don't care" attitude that has frankly almost ruined my 12 year marriage.HE HAS GONE TO THE POINT TO SHOVE MY HUSBAND ON A ACCOUNT OF "WAS DISRESPECTED(NOT ALLOWED IN MY ROOM TO WAKE ME )"...i HAVE TAKEN HIM TO SEE A NEUROLOGIST WHO IN TURN HAS PUT HIM ON MEDS...(ADHD)...HE WANTS FRIENDS TO COME INTO MY HOME THAT HAVE SMOKED( MARY JANE) IN HIS ROOM ....ALSO DISRUPTING OUR HOME EVERY MORNING BECAUSE HE DOES NOT HAVE A DESIRE TO FINISH SCHOOL...MY PHONE RINGS OFF THE HOOK DUE TO HIMNOT ATTENDING....I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR SOME PROFESSIONAL ADVISE ON HOW 2 DEAL WITH HIS LACK OF DRIVE...NOT 2 MENTION STOLE MY CAR LAST MONTH ONLY 2 HAVE IT IMPOUNDED AND BOOKED ON A D.U.I...............?"

As I read your story it is like you sat down with me to write my story. But we are also dealing with some drugs, smashed cars, fighting. Threats from buddies. I live in fear in my own home, not sure of what crap he will bring home next. What are you doing now? I need help!

               By:  BLychuk        Posted: Feb 15 2009

19 year old son              Reply to this Comment

my son just turned 19, he graduated in 2008.. that day he turned 18 and graduated at the same time.. He has went from leader in the youth group at church and being a smart young guy to staying out all night, us not having any idea where he is, went to college 5 miles down the road, quit. We enrolled him in a tech school 2 hours away rented apartment etc... quit... won't look for work, procrastinates, disrespects, hates being around family, multiple speeding tickets, just down right does not care about anything.. Selfish self centered... We have no idea what the heck he is thinking.. I think we all have this preconsieved idea of what they should be when they growup.. boy was i totally wrong....He thinks he is ADHD.. idk...

               By:  rainey        Posted: Jun 14 2009

18 year old HATES ME               Reply to this Comment

I have an 18 year old daughter that just hates me and tells me all the time. He father and I are not together and I moved to Kentucky when she was 3 and came back when she was 10. I tried to see her and I sent letters and gifts but most of the time I was gone I didnt talk to her. When I came back it was very hard becuase she didnt want to see me (he dad told her that I never loved her and so on) She moved in with me about 3 years ago and she has been the most hateful, disrespectful, angry person. When she moved in with me she was dating a boy and he was over the house all the time and she pretty much walks all over me and I of course allow this. I am so over the I hate You, you were never there its your job to take care of me you dont know how to be a mom and so on, that I really dont know what to do. I have tried everything to make things better but she tells me that I have not. I know that counseling is a good first step, but I need to know what else there is for me to do as to try and make things better. I also have the issue about her dad that constantly tells her and me that I suck at being a Mom and that I dont care about her at all. Please anyone have any advise to help me in this tangled web that I am in.

               By:  monajean2020        Posted: Nov 05 2009

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