Reaching out to parents of teensReply to this Comment
Hi.
My name is Marsha Finkelstein, I'm a parent educator and life coach, focusing on parents of teens and pre-teens. I am looking for ways to connect with parents as I reach out in my local and in the virtual community. Any thoughts on how to connect/reach out to parents is most helpful.
Thanks
Marsha Finkelstein
Parent Educator & Life Coach
Moving Beyond Coaching & Consulting
www.movingbeyondcoaching.com
New Internet Resource for Parents of Teens.Reply to this Comment
My wife and I have had custody of our nephew for the past 9 years. We have had some recent issues with some difficult behaviors and Will (my nephew) just recently returned home. To offer some structured mental processing for Will and me, and to offer information to people in similar situations, we are recording a podcast of conversations of our recent days at home. The recordings of these conversations are available at http://atroubledteen.wordpress.com and http://www.talkshoe.com/tc/14792. I would love if these could be distributed to others who are either experiencing relative placement or work with these families.
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Prom Night - Transportation Worries Be Gone!Reply to this Comment
Hi everyone, my name is Terry Firsch and I wanted to share these tips with other parents who may be going crazy over prom night...
1. Ask the transportation company for the Prom Promise. This is a document that teens sign in agreement of not drinking or taking drugs on Prom night. Many limousine and chauffeured transportation companies offer this contract as a way to give parents an outlet to discuss the importance of safety on Prom with their teens.
2. Give the transportation company a curfew. That’s right; the chauffer will abide by any rules you set forth, and will make sure to pick up and drop off your kids at a designated hour. This is a great way ensure your kids make it home on time, no excuses.
3. Check with industry associations to make sure the company you choose is reputable. Companies who belong to industry associations usually must abide by special insurance regulations and service rules. Reputable associations such as the National Limousine Association (NLA) and the local livery association are good indications that your service provider does their due diligence. If you are still stuck, consult www.nlaride.com. The National Limousine Association’s website lists licensed, properly insured limousine professionals by community. Consumers can compare services, pricing, vehicle availability and receive non-binding online price quotes.
4. Set some ground rules. As the parent, you have the right to tell the transportation company what will and will not be tolerated in the vehicle. For example, you can ask that the chauffer keep the privacy screen down for the entire ride, so that he/she has a full grasp of what your kids are up to. If any of your rules are broken, the chauffer can turn the car around and bring your kids home.
5. Remember to sit back and relax. A reputable company hires drivers with proper training and licensing. Theses chauffeurs are used to carting around excited passengers all day long, so they know how to keep things under control.
Pointers for Limos on Prom NightReply to this Comment
1. Ask the transportation company for the Prom Promise. This is a document that teens sign in agreement of not drinking or taking drugs on Prom night. Many limousine and chauffeured transportation companies offer this contract as a way to give parents an outlet to discuss the importance of safety on Prom with their teens.
2. Give the transportation company a curfew. That’s right; the chauffer will abide by any rules you set forth, and will make sure to pick up and drop off your kids at a designated hour. This is a great way ensure your kids make it home on time, no excuses.
3. Check with industry associations to make sure the company you choose is reputable. Companies who belong to industry associations usually must abide by special insurance regulations and service rules. Reputable associations such as the National Limousine Association (NLA) and the local livery association are good indications that your service provider does their due diligence. If you are still stuck, consult www.nlaride.com. The National Limousine Association’s website lists licensed, properly insured limousine professionals by community. Consumers can compare services, pricing, vehicle availability and receive non-binding online price quotes.
4. Set some ground rules. As the parent, you have the right to tell the transportation company what will and will not be tolerated in the vehicle. For example, you can ask that the chauffer keep the privacy screen down for the entire ride, so that he/she has a full grasp of what your kids are up to. If any of your rules are broken, the chauffer can turn the car around and bring your kids home.
5. Remember to sit back and relax. A reputable company hires drivers with proper training and licensing. Theses chauffeurs are used to carting around excited passengers all day long, so they know how to keep things under control.
impathy vs. apathyReply to this Comment
I'm having the hardest time teaching my daughter to be impathetic. She's sixteen, and according to development scientist all of the wiring isn't in place for her to formulate those feelings of concern and compassion. But then I was watching myself and realised I was a poor example. I wasn't saying please and thank-you. I was more concerned about the feelings of my dog rusty than those of my neighbor. Who just divorced his wife. I guess this is more of a comment than a question. Impathy, I think isn't about physical developement it about moral and spiritual a developement. And it's about watching what your child cares about. And remembering what's important. Impathy isn't a bad word, is it. Can I relearn how to be impathetic in mt dad to day. And teach my daughter as well. And help her through her angst and apathy. leading by example.
J. T. Thomas wrote:
"I'm having the hardest time teaching my daughter to be impathetic. She's sixteen, and according to development scientist all of the wiring isn't in place for her to formulate those feelings of concern and compassion. But then I was watching myself and realised I was a poor example. I wasn't saying please and thank-you. I was more concerned about the feelings of my dog rusty than those of my neighbor. Who just divorced his wife. I guess this is more of a comment than a question. Impathy, I think isn't about physical developement it about moral and spiritual a developement. And it's about watching what your child cares about. And remembering what's important. Impathy isn't a bad word, is it. Can I relearn how to be impathetic in mt dad to day. And teach my daughter as well. And help her through her angst and apathy. leading by example."
I just watched a screening of American Teen, with my duaghter and we enjoyed it together. Subtly answering so many of my questions. I guess we should never forget as parents what it was like to be a teen. And to hold the care and concern we wanted as teens and give that to our teens now. We also joined eachother in the facebook application. www.facebook.com/americanteen. It was a refreshing documentary to say the least. Watch American Teen. And then watch the Breakfast Club. Then compare and Contrast your thoughts and feelings.
Protecting Your Teen OnlineReply to this Comment
Hi. I wanted to help all of the parents out there who are looking to protect their children from the dangers of online pornography. The solution is SeeNoEvil. The exposure of pornography to your children can be life altering. This software has worked in our house. I'm confident it will in yours too.
my trouble teenReply to this Comment
i have a son that is out of control hes 19 all he does is smokes mariguana and drinks and hangs around with his friends,he quit school i tried night school which he quit too no matter how much i talk to him and try to help him he ignores me,what else can i do? i'm so drain i'm getting physically sick. help please or suggestions will be very much appreciated.
Strength in numbersReply to this Comment
Folks,
I am lost and don't know where to turn. I've got a 14 year old who is out of control. Divorced from his mom, I work 2nd shift and am not able to help with the guidance and discipline he needs. I have 2 others following in his footsteps. I have asked many times for the Alternate Ed school to evaluate and help me put him in programs to help. Not a word back from them. I am at the end of my rope. If someone has some ideas, something they have done please let me know. I'm afraid I don't have much time left before I lose my boy. All the talking in the world doesn't help. Please please help my boy. I am truly to the point of quitting my job so I can be home in the evenings to be with them. But then again I need to feed, cloth and shelter them. My name is dan Parkhurst, e-mail parkhurst372@yahoo.com.
tweety wrote:
"i have a son that is out of control hes 19 all he does is smokes mariguana and drinks and hangs around with his friends,he quit school i tried night school which he quit too no matter how much i talk to him and try to help him he ignores me,what else can i do? i'm so drain i'm getting physically sick. help please or suggestions will be very much appreciated."
I know how you feel. I'm sorry I don't have any asnwers I am looking for some myself. Keep in touch and keep praying.
tweety wrote:
"i have a son that is out of control hes 19 all he does is smokes mariguana and drinks and hangs around with his friends,he quit school i tried night school which he quit too no matter how much i talk to him and try to help him he ignores me,what else can i do? i'm so drain i'm getting physically sick. help please or suggestions will be very much appreciated."
I know how you feel. I'm sorry I don't have any asnwers I am looking for some myself. Keep in touch and keep praying.
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A mother on a mission..Reply to this Comment
Never underestimate a mother on a mission...
The son of a friend of mine had just gotten his license when he made a "rookie" mistake and totaled the family car. Fortunately, he
was okay. So horrified by the accident and what could have happened,
his mother began to really look at the teen driving crisis; the
number one killer of TEENS in the US.
Then...this mother made a promise and a plan to do something proactive in powerful to DRIVE change.
A few days ago she launched STEER STRAIGHT:
www.steerstraight.com
This teen driver safety membership network uses "How is my TEEN
Driving?" bumper stickers, a 24/7 alert communication network and an
interactive website to educate and empower teens behind the wheel.
The teaching modules alone are effective and powerful and in both
English and Spanish. Also, a portion of the proceeds from the membership fee will support a teen empowerment organization
called, "Make the Dash Count" (www.makethedashcount.org)creating
youth philanthropy boards across the country and granting money to
organizations that help youth "at risk." All good....all empowering.
You can now receive a 10 percent discount by using this promo code: 7FC
Just click JOIN NOW on the Steer Straight website and the promo code
box is at the bottom of the online membership form.
Please spread the word....and the promo codes --
July is the deadliest month of the year for TEEN driving
fatalities...let's empower each other to "make a difference."
If this program saves one TEEN it's priceless...
A TOAST to our kids and keeping them safe and ALIVE!!!
Karen
skiefer1@comcast.net
A mother on a mission..Reply to this Comment
Never underestimate a mother on a mission...
The son of a friend of mine had just gotten his license when he made a "rookie" mistake and totaled the family car. Fortunately, he
was okay. So horrified by the accident and what could have happened,
his mother began to really look at the teen driving crisis; the
number one killer of TEENS in the US.
Then...this mother made a promise and a plan to do something proactive in powerful to DRIVE change.
A few days ago she launched STEER STRAIGHT:
www.steerstraight.com
This teen driver safety membership network uses "How is my TEEN
Driving?" bumper stickers, a 24/7 alert communication network and an
interactive website to educate and empower teens behind the wheel.
The teaching modules alone are effective and powerful and in both
English and Spanish. Also, a portion of the proceeds from the membership fee will support a teen empowerment organization
called, "Make the Dash Count" (www.makethedashcount.org)creating
youth philanthropy boards across the country and granting money to
organizations that help youth "at risk." All good....all empowering.
You can now receive a 10 percent discount by using this promo code: 7FC
Just click JOIN NOW on the Steer Straight website and the promo code
box is at the bottom of the online membership form.
Please spread the word....and the promo codes --
July is the deadliest month of the year for TEEN driving
fatalities...let's empower each other to "make a difference."
If this program saves one TEEN it's priceless...
A TOAST to our kids and keeping them safe and ALIVE!!!
Karen
skiefer1@comcast.net
Embe wrote:
"Hi. I wanted to help all of the parents out there who are looking to protect their children from the dangers of online pornography. The solution is SeeNoEvil. The exposure of pornography to your children can be life altering. This software has worked in our house. I'm confident it will in yours too. "
I have my nephew with me. He has totally become a problem child.He abuses elders and always try to bluff someone.He always tells lies.He does not respect anyone.
thanks
encouraging responsibility in your teenReply to this Comment
Rather than sending the kids off to college with no clue or appreciation for how to cook, we feel that it's important in my house to teach our teens proper nutrition and early cooking. Nothing too complicated or elaborate. Whether it be a simple casserole or a breast of chicken, we feel that at age 16-17, the kids should become more independent. We actually got a couple FoldTuk bakeware containers that can go from freezer to oven - if I have to work late, this is the item in my house that helps me feed my kids- and helps my kids feed themselves!!!!
tough loveReply to this Comment
as parents, let us always remember that when our children make mistakes, parents should be careful to address the mistake. not condemn the child. Parents can talk with their children about unacceptable behavior without making the children feel they are bad. It is better to say that a child has behaved in an unacceptable way than to say that the child is bad.
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twin troubleReply to this Comment
Hi all, I am a mother of four children of my own and two step children. My two youngest girls are twins that are now 18. One of the girls had a baby when she was 17 and the other is now pregnant. Neither girls work, they dropped out of school to get their GED and haven't completed it. The twin that already has a baby is a "terrible" mother, she refuses to put his needs in front of her own. I actually have temporary custody of the baby who is 1 but am in a custody battle with the father, who just happens to be an 18 yr old who deals drugs but doesn't like paying child support. These girls have drained me emotionally, physically, and financially. I am at my wits end and would love to just kick them out but they have no place to go, no decent friends to stay with. What does a parent do in this situation. I have tried talking to them about what I expect from them but they get upset because I ask them to do things around the house. These girls are very immature and I don't know how to handle this situation any longer. Please help with any advice you can..
Adolescent PornographyReply to this Comment
After living in Japan for two years, my 15 year old son has developed an interest in what is known as "hentai"--drawn images and stories of various characters engaging in unusual and even quite horrific sexual activities. Just before I traveled overseas last week, I noticed his computer search engine was filled with bizarre sounding search terms, and when I arrived at my final destination a few days ago I did a search of these results. The images were deeply disturbing. We've talked in the past about his exploration of internet sites--he says that he is just curious. I have told him that what he sees has no connection to a relationship with a real woman. He seems to understand this, but I worry the coarseness and toxicity of what he sees will affect him. Am I being naive in this regard? His interactions thus far with girls seem completely normal, but I worry at the very graphic and disturbing nature of what's out there.
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By: movingbeyond Posted: Feb 23 2008