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Hello, I need some advice. My daughter is 16. She is beatiful, extremely talented and intelligent. Very well rounded and loved by her teachers, friends and everyone who meets her. She cares about everyone else, loves children and wants to be in pediatrics someday. The problem is lately she has exhibited things that I have never seen until now. She has been with a boy for almost a year now who when together, are so in love. The laugh, tickle, hold hands, get along famously. But what has been going on behind the scenes is her questioning him, accusing him, calling him names, etc. She gets upset if he's late for anything and basically has a fit if she doesn't get her way. She has had an extremely rough six months or so with a lot of different things going on, and I don't know if that's too blame, but I don't know who to take her to, an anger management class, a pyschiatrist, counselor? The boy's parents have gotten involved and they are officially broken up. My daugther is freaking out that she lost the best person in the world for her over something she couldn't control. She admits she has a problem with not getting what she wants and freaking out but doesn't know how to handle it. Any advice is appreciated.
lovemydaughter wrote:
"Hello, I need some advice. My daughter is 16. She is beatiful, extremely talented and intelligent. Very well rounded and loved by her teachers, friends and everyone who meets her. She cares about everyone else, loves children and wants to be in pediatrics someday. The problem is lately she has exhibited things that I have never seen until now. She has been with a boy for almost a year now who when together, are so in love. The laugh, tickle, hold hands, get along famously. But what has been going on behind the scenes is her questioning him, accusing him, calling him names, etc. She gets upset if he's late for anything and basically has a fit if she doesn't get her way. She has had an extremely rough six months or so with a lot of different things going on, and I don't know if that's too blame, but I don't know who to take her to, an anger management class, a pyschiatrist, counselor? The boy's parents have gotten involved and they are officially broken up. My daugther is freaking out that she lost the best person in the world for her over something she couldn't control. She admits she has a problem with not getting what she wants and freaking out but doesn't know how to handle it. Any advice is appreciated. "
Hello mom. This is my first time on this site. I was reading your issues that you are now having. There is a root to this change of behavior. When that is decovered, then you can move on to the salution. It sound like, she has a trust issue. She is afraid of abandoment. Look in her past, may be a father not being there when she needed, hurt from a past relationship that she has not fully healed from; or has he done anything to make her feel inscure in this relationship? There can be a number of things. But, yes, I think that it is best that they are apart. Atleast she does know that there's a problem. Now, you have to sit with her, to start the healing process. She has to want to open up to you to tell you where this pain first developed from. Somewhere in her past, where you may have never knew. I work with teens, and they deal with so much, that they will not just tell you. They push it back, and never deal with it. That maybe why you are geeting the results of (freaking out). Help her to communicate. But, please, never assume you know. That's the mistake that alot of parents have. Blessed luck to you and your daughter!
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-hi, im brittaney im 16 yrz old and ive been threw alot in my past yearz of living.from evry-thing yew can name i mainlyhave problemz at home with boyz and school.i admit that life is rough for us teenagers usually parents don't understand us the way we want them to. for me life does;nt come easy for me i go threw alot of bumpz along my road but i usually get threw them sometimes i want to quit evrything but i push myself to mving forward im usually the one all my friends come to when they need advice i give the greatest ever. my dream job would be to become a high-school counselor. i have big dreamz and i plan to suceed them right now im working on getting my first job at academy and save up to buy my very-own car now my problem is life is that i just dont understand it nothing ive lost about 4 cousins this year and one of my very own friends (rest in paradise alex) life is like a big rollar coaster and i would appriciate it if someone will help me with my problems because no-one seems to understand where i am coming from.
-b;marie
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By: lovemydaughter Posted: May 27 2008