Self Mutilation among teensReply to this Comment
Having gone through a scare with my daughter cutting herself, I have found a friend's notebook and it became very clear to me that my daughter is doing this self-cutting as a form of sympathy for her friend. Do I now ignore this or do I seek help?
Holly in BoerneReply to this Comment
Holly,
Are you still in Boerne...?
I am seeking help for my 15 year old daughter and I live in Boerne.
Are there any support groups in our area.
Please,,,Please respond!
This article on self injuryReply to this Comment
Most of this article was plagiarized from www.mirror-mirror.org, a website specializing in eating disorders. You should give proper credit. Here is the page: http://www.mirror-mirror.org/selfinj.htm
Former self-mutilatorReply to this Comment
You had a list of what someone ought to do or could do to avoid an incident. One of them was to snap your wrist with a rubber band or a hair tie. I feel the need, as a former self-mutilator who did that, to say this: it made me itch and want to cut that area. It also made my veins puff up quite a bit which merely tempted me to slice them open. I would not recommend a cutter to slap their wrists unless it is a last resort.
I must say that I believe not being alone is one of the best solutions to avoid an incident. I found that rubbing lotion on my wrists or area I was tempted to cut helped a great deal.
emo's and self mutalationReply to this Comment
I just found out that my son is self mutalating. He says he has one other friend that is doing this. We have notified the parents and the school. My question is that my son identifies his self with a group called "emo"
I am not sure exactly what to do he says he feels like he does not fit in with any other groups. We are setting him up with the psychologist. I am just not sure where to go from here
Where do parents find helpReply to this Comment
Our daughter is a self injurerer and we have had her in counseling and then with a pysch. doctor for a year, plus medication and paid thousands of dollars and through it all. There hasn't been much for us as parents. We have been through a total nightmare of running her to emergency rooms, doctors visits, missing work, and the insurance isn't considerate. But where do we fit in, other than family counseling where we have to be agreeable to pretty much what out daughter wants no one wants to upset her or disagree with her. It's a total nightmare. Anyone else finding that as a parent there is no where to go?
garlicmom wrote:
"Our daughter is a self injurerer and we have had her in counseling and then with a pysch. doctor for a year, plus medication and paid thousands of dollars and through it all. There hasn't been much for us as parents. We have been through a total nightmare of running her to emergency rooms, doctors visits, missing work, and the insurance isn't considerate. But where do we fit in, other than family counseling where we have to be agreeable to pretty much what out daughter wants no one wants to upset her or disagree with her. It's a total nightmare. Anyone else finding that as a parent there is no where to go?"
see if the school or community agency can start or has already a support group for parents, there is no shortage, unfortunatley of parents dealing with this....
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bfransbagg wrote:
"I just found out that my son is self mutalating. He says he has one other friend that is doing this. We have notified the parents and the school. My question is that my son identifies his self with a group called "emo"
I am not sure exactly what to do he says he feels like he does not fit in with any other groups. We are setting him up with the psychologist. I am just not sure where to go from here"
Your son needs you right now more than ever. I know It is hard as a parent to understand or even accept his behavior. But, I ask you to please be his friend; talk to him about your experience as a teenager (even if it's not a good one, but make sure you tell him of the good lesson you learned), tell him how you coped with social-issues.
Give him alternatives to his isssue. For example, ask him if he has other friends he will rather hang out with,and give him tips to how he can become friends with them. Also, be supportive (don't freak out),yet keep your authority in place.
All in all, I believe your best bet would be to build a strong relationship with your teenager.
I'll be praying for your family
Sorayaibau wrote:
"Your son needs you right now more than ever. I know It is hard as a parent to understand or even accept his behavior. But, I ask you to please be his friend; talk to him about your experience as a teenager (even if it's not a good one, but make sure you tell him of the good lesson you learned), tell him how you coped with social-issues.
Give him alternatives to his isssue. For example, ask him if he has other friends he will rather hang out with,and give him tips to how he can become friends with them. Also, be supportive (don't freak out),yet keep your authority in place.
All in all, I believe your best bet would be to build a strong relationship with your teenager.
I'll be praying for your family "
my daughter is in therapy for s.i. right now and wants to be Goth or Emo. She doesn't know how to express normal emotions, and uses s.i. as her only coping tool. The therapist is working on teaching her these skills.Don't give up on your son.
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