Teen verbal abuse is very common, more common than physical abuse, but it is less dealt with as it is very hard to identify, the fact that is not obvious and it doesn’t leave visible marks like physical abuse makes it harder to deal with teen verbal abuse. Teens and kids are in the worst possible position when it comes to verbal abuse. It is hard for them to find help, in fact it is hard for them to make someone even believe them because there is no evidence.
Wikipedia describes verbal abuse: “Verbal abuse (also called verbal attack or reviling) is a form of abusive behavior involving the use of language. It is a form of profanity that can occur with or without the use of expletives. While oral communication is its most common form, verbal abuse may be expressed in the form of the written word as well.”
The most known types of verbal abuse are name calling, put-downs, blaming and criticizing, but there are others any form of insult can be considered as verbal abuse.
But if we were to identify teen verbal abuse we need to categorize the types of verbal abuse, know them in order to see them.
One thing that can be considered as verbal abuse is withholding. Although this is very rare and almost impossible to prove it can cause certain issues and as such can be considered as verbal abuse. Withholding is when one person in a relationship withholds emotions, feelings, or certain cats from the other person to the point where it becomes impossible to communicate.
Countering is also considered as verbal abuse. That is when a person always corrects and counters things that other say and that person doesn’t agree about.
Teasing and joking are the most common types of teen verbal abuse, but the fact that they are common doesn’t make them any less dangerous. The line is crossed when the joking and teasing starts to be about making fun of someone who doesn’t find those jokes to be funny.
Also a very common type of verbal abuse is blaming people. Blaming is mostly part of a relationship issue; it is when one person constantly blames the other, especially in an argument when blaming is used to put the other person in defensive stance and to confuse them, blaming can cause a great deal of low self esteem.
And the last type of verbal abuse is judging people or criticizing them. To put it simply that is when someone points out the flaws of others in a critical manner. In reality this type of criticism is always meant with bad intent.
Teen verbal abuse is a serious issue that can cause plenty side effects like depression, low self esteem, in some cases it can even lead people to substance abuse as a way of coping with problems. The biggest problem with verbal abuse remains the fact that it is hard to prevent and hard to deal with as it almost always comes down to “he said, she said”.