Communication, one of the hardest but yet most rewarding things we do. It seems like the more we use communication to less we know how to actually do it. The standards are changing too fast for us to catch up all the time. One of the biggest problems any parent has with his teen child is communication. Yes, that is our biggest problem, how to communicate with our children. There is no easy way to go about it, but as you read this you will see that it’s not so hard. The first and the most important thing is to realize that you have to listen to what your child has to say, if you fail to do that it might as well be useless.
Basically there are a few steps you need to keep in mind and you will do just fine. The first thing is not overreacting once your teen child stops confiding in you, that is pretty much normal at a certain age. Of course when you start talking with your teen you need to listen to what he or she has to say rather than making an argument. That also means that you need to let your child know you are listening to him, stop whatever you are doing. There is no point if your child is talking to a microwave.
Once you have that covered you need to concentrate on your part of the conversation. Mistake number one is to concentrate on the negative, don’t do that, concentrate on the positive and give your child affirmation about his or hers success and accomplishments. Try to be on the positive side as much as you can. Also, you need to talk to your teen when there is no cause for you to talk, like a certain issue. Talk to your child about music, sports, movies and anything that might interest him or her.
Now comes the tricky part, the key to successful communication. Don’ talk too much, as you surely need to talk to your child, doing too much of talking can backfire on you. Giving a lecture over and over again or telling the same story multiple times will cause your child to turn a deaf ear. The next key is to try and understand what your child is saying to you, there is no need for you to approve or disapprove, all you need to do is make your child aware that you understand.
The last part is not to let yourself fall into a trap. You are an adult and you need to act like one, so the first thing you need to remember is never overreact to something. Also, when your child wants an answer on something, don’t jump to say no, always think about it before giving your answer, in other words, think before you open your mouth or it will be a talk between two teenagers. At all times avoid arguments and power struggles, your goal is to always aim for the compromise.
With just these few simple things you can improve the communication between you and your teenager tenfold.